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Scary Honesty with Sarah Ludford
February 6, 2021 @ 10:30 am - 4:30 pm
Scary honesty is more than just saying what you think. Scary Honesty is speaking from the heart, expressing your needs and being willing to listen to the response you get. Holding yourself as important AND caring about what is important for others.
When I speak with scary honesty I make myself vulnerable – I share part of myself and hope that whoever I am speaking to will meet me with understanding and empathy. When I risk speaking honestly I trust that expressing my needs will lead to more understanding not less.
And the response I get may not be the one I hoped for.
With scary honesty, I want to be able to hold my own needs with gentleness and care, and to listen for the feelings and needs being expressed by others, so I can deal with whatever happens once I open my mouth. Then, even if things get messy for a while I can stay in the dialogue, take care of myself and increase my chances of connection, of being heard and of everyone’s needs getting met.
Having capacity to hold myself regardless of the response I get can provide the safety I need to get past the fear of expressing my needs
On this one day course we will get clear what we want to say, and practice the skills of empathy in preparation for speaking honestly and being able to stay grounded whatever response we get.
Prerequisite: We request you to have attended a minimum of 2 days NVC training to participate in this course.
The day will be split into three sections of 90 mins. You can attend one, two, or all three sessions. If you want to attend session three you will need to come to both the earlier sessions.
Session One 10.30-12pm: What do I want to say?
- Connecting with ourselves to get clear about what is important to us. What is it we want to be heard for?
- Expression is the beginning of a dialogue
Session Two 1pm-2.30pm: What happens when I open my mouth?
- Exploring our fears around speaking
- Empathy, empathy, empathy
- Getting ready to listen
Session three 3pm-4.30pm: Dialogue practice and roleplay
Putting it into practice (or more empathy)