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Support Space: Black Joy – White envy

The monthly Support space for white people unlearning racism continues Thursday May 25th 5.30-7pm

Theme:  Black Joy: White Envy

This space is for NVC practitioners, whether you are beginning your journey with NVC or you have been practicing it for decades.

This month we will explore what comes up in our bodies reading this article on ‘Black Joy’ in the pursuit of racial justice and notice disconnection, defensiveness, reaction, envy … and particularly invite enquiry into how behavioural patterns based on envy can show up in our white-bodied ways.  

Empathy and constructive challenge is encouraged. 

Here is zoom link,  or contact ceribuckmaster@gmail.com for more info. 

About Unlearning Racism for white NVC practitioners

Unlearning Racism is a support space for white people interested in NVC and we meet monthly. Info here

It is co-held under the umbrella of pre-emptive work by the Conflict Transformation Weave.

For those of you who are interested in conflict facilitation, understanding systemic issues such as explicit and internalised racism, class, gender inequality, neurodivergence and physical mobility and how different aspects of these identities ‘intersect’ (or ‘crossroad’ each other) is essential.

It’s also essential as a facilitator to have a sense of how your own social identities impact and inform your experience (who can you easily empathise with and who not, as just one example) and a sense of how other people experience you as you show up in all the glory of the intersecting features of your identity.

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When parts of your identity fall through the cracks

Falling through the cracks

In our April 2023 Unlearning Racism support space for white people, we looked at Intersectionality and why an intersectional lens is important, particularly when considering the complex marginalisations that happen around race.

Ijeoma Oluo in Chapter 5 of her book So, you want to talk about Race explores personally how

  • Their queer identity may be overlooked by anti racist movements
  • Their black identity may be overlooked by feminist or queer movements
  • Their middle class identity may cause them to overlook poor people in all movements

This is the essence of Intersectionality: it is an invitation to explore our identities in order that parts of us don’t fall through the cracks of connection, and that we might be better equipped to understand other people’s experiences of marginalisation.

What we did in the session

If you missed the session, we watched 3 min section starting at 56 mins https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByiEt0hpmkk  (total video length 1hr 18 mins and we will discuss parts of this video in the future)

We then explored these questions:

What would be the areas of identity you might overlook or not notice because they are not part of your identify?

Whose experience would be inaccessible to you because of that?

And What action might you take to counter this or do this differently?

  • For example, I’m a cis-woman, I put my pronouns on my screen as an act of solidarity with non binary people
  • Im an able boded person, I try to name accessibility in venues I use, so disabled people don’t have to always ask for the information they need to come along.
  • I’m a white man. I tend to read books by other white men. I can create change by finding my knowledge and learning in works by black women, or people from the Global South.

We then went on to ask this question

What other examples can you think of, that if you didn’t hold awareness of different identities people occupy, that part of their experience would go unacknowledged, and could create huge conflict and imbalance in life?

Further exploration …. How Intersectionality evolved as a concept

You can watch Kimberley Crenshaw talk about the original case involving Emma Degraffenreid that led to coining the term Intersectionality. https://youtu.be/JRci2V8PxW4 (5.50 mins)

Emma Degraffenreid was an African American who didn’t get a job in a car plant that employed African American men on the factory floor and white women as secretarial support in the office. Her lawsuit for discrimination was thrown out because black men were being employed and white women were being employed. But Emma Degraffenreid faced double discrimination as an African American woman and the law refused to understand her experience and tossed the case out of court. Kimberly Crenshaw advocated that there was no name for the problem, and when you can’t name or frame a problem, you can’t solve it, hence the need for a lens, such as Intersectionality to see Emma’s dilemma.

An ‘Intersection‘ is more commonly used in the US than the the UK. It’s simply where two roads meet, so if the word crossroads or junction provides a visual image that might support understanding, go for it!

About Unlearning Racism

Unlearning Racism is a support space for white people interested in NVC and we meet monthly. Info here

It is co-held under the umbrella of pre-emptive work by the Conflict Transformation Weave.

For those of you who are interested in conflict facilitation, understanding systemic issues such as explicit and internalised racism, class, gender inequality, neurodivergence and physical mobility and how different aspects of these identities ‘intersect’ (or ‘crossroad’ each other) is essential.

It’s also essential as a facilitator to have a sense of how your own social identities impact and inform your experience (who can you easily empathise with and who not, as just one example) and a sense of how other people experience you as you show up in all the glory of the intersecting features of your identity.

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Living Systems for Thriving Groups

I’m delighted to share with you a massive, free, online resource for supporting you in your groups.

Navigate which is a UK based collective supporting groups to organise, deal with challenges, and deliver on purpose has created this resource which will guide you through Understanding purpose and power, Decision making, Engaging with conflict, Feedback and Care and community support.

You can do it at your own pace and you can bring it to your groups to work through together.

Jana and Paul who have largely put this together, with support from other colleagues at Navigate, are very inspired by the work of Miki Kashtan (NGL, Fearless Heart) and Dominic Barter (Restorative Systems) and is related to the vision of Nonviolent Communication of a world that works for all.